The Kivin method is pretty much sideways cunnilingus. If you are into having healthy sexual conversations you have likely heard of it. If you haven’t you’re in the right place.
Marla Renee Stewart, sexologist associated with the Velvet Lips Sex Down South and co-author of “The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay,” teaches that when it comes to giving oral sex, the majority of what we observe in porn and practice IRL is a partner located directly within the other’s legs.
With the Kivin method the giver positions their body so that it’s perpendicular — not parallel — to the receivers. If that was difficult to understand? Check out this Kivin method diagram illustrated. At a perpendicular angle, exposure to the tongue is maximized and concentration on and across the clitoris, labia majora, and labia minora increased.
Rather than licking up and down, which would miss out on stimulating the crura and bulbs, with the Kivin Method, licking occurs lengthways, meaning that stimulation is extended over a wider surface area. Some have reported using the method has led to them climaxing in three minutes flat.
To get in position for the Kivin Method, the receiver lies on their back and brings one knee to their chest, creating space for their partner to enter horizontally. They can then rest their leg over their partner’s back or keep it elevated. (Keep in mind that the comfort of the receiver plays a vital role in how successful this technique will be. In fact, Knight says anything that removes attention from pleasure can have a negative effect on the overall experience.) Whichever stance you choose, aim to create a comfortable, stress-free environment where you can fully relax and enjoy.
How to Do The Kivin Method
- To get in place for the Kivin Method the receiver rests on their back.
- Then draws one knee to their chest, generating space for their partner to enter horizontally.
- They can then relax their leg over their partner’s back or keep it raised.
It is important to note that the comfort of the will determine how successful this method will be. Anything that shifts concentration from pleasure can have an adverse impact on the overall experience. Whichever position you choose, aim to generate a relaxed, stress-free atmosphere where you can fully relax and enjoy.
The Kivin Method Diagram
In order to provide a better example this we have collected an example with the Kivin method diagram with the kevin method illustrated. This kevin method diagram is useful to provide a better idea of the exact position. Viewing the kevin method illustrated is also more appropriate right?
Just in case you missed the hint above, the Kivin method diagram is here.
Benefits of The Kivin Method
There are three main benefits of the Kivin method:
- Access to stimulate the perineum — that’s the skin connecting the vagina and anal openings is especially nerve-dense and still frequently overlooked during oral
- Second, better access to the entire vulva. While straight-on oral gives the giver direct stimulation to the clitoris, it doesn’t put the giver’s mouth in the best position to stimulate the receiver’s labia, clitoris, and pubic mound. Many receivers really find straight clitoral stimulation too intense, to the point of being unpleasant.
- Most receivers enjoy one side of the clitoris over the other. The kivin method gives you the opportunity to discover what that side is if you don’t already know.
Healthy Sex Reminder
Remember communication is part of having good sex. The willingness to talk about the kind of sex we have or want to have is a key skill. By having these conversations, you and your partner’s relationship can have emotional, psychological, and mental benefits.
Intimate conversations aren’t just about pleasure. Other topics about sex can include:
- sexual health
- how frequently we’d like sex
- how to explore unknowns
- how to deal with differences in what we and our partners enjoy
Talking about these topics can also help build a foundation for a better relationship as you learn about each other and explore new things together, all while being on the same page.